Dougy Mak’s Blog

Today, this friend of mine, well I wouldn’t say friend, but rather an aquiantance, however, he is a friend’s friend, anyways, he told us that he is with this girl that has a bf, and that they did stuff. First thing I said out loud is, “I hate people like that.” I don’t think I am in a position to tell him what to do, but I am thinking of telling him what I think.

I don’t know her side of the story, but does he really think that girl won’t do the samething to him? What I think is that she needs to wrap things up with her current man before entering a new relationship. She needs to earn her way out of the relationship, and she needs to be responsible. Let’s say she does wrap things up and then break up, and start a new relationship right away… well it’s great that she did it that way, but that isn’t much different from what she is doing right now… I mean, she can keep it a secret and just go with the guy later to cover it up, but you really can’t lie to yourself.

To me, this kind of girl is weak, actually, not “kind of”- she is weak because she can’t set boundaries, she can’t mentally stay strong, and she can’t uphold her morals, or maybe she has no morals. Who would want someone like that? I can’t stand a girl who doesn’t have good qualities to be a wife or gf. She totally let someone walk in between her and her current boy friend. Although she isn’t looking for a new partner, or even if she told the third person “I am with someone and I would not go with you”, that doesn’t mean she should still continue to talk with that third person. I cannot stand people like that. She needs to learn to set boundaries, and stick to them. I think the ideal way would be to just keep a distance from that third person and let it be. She can argue that she is still young and she wants to try new things and it’s fine. My counter arguement would be something like “BUT YOU DON’T GO AND SAY THAT WHILE YOU ARE CHEATING ON YOUR BOY FRIEND.” then she’ll probably say something like “I can do whatever I want, it’s my life”. Well then… I pity you. It’s not about not letting you do it or if you can do it or not- it’s about how you do things, and how responsibly do you do it.

welps, back to my studies.

Update: He chose the right choice
http://dougymak.com/2008/09/30/people-who-cheat-weak-update/