Dougy Mak’s Blog

Only when you are able let go, will you have room to bloom.  Whether it is letting go of a teddy bear given to you by your childhood friend, or whether it is letting go of someone you love… It hurts, and no one likes to let go of these things, but sometimes you just need to. It hurts, but it is for the best.

Letting go does not necessarily mean you are giving up, it does not necessarily mean you do not have the will to continue, it does not necessarily mean these things at all…

it means…
Letting go means you are strong. It shows that you are in control of yourself. You will not let anyone else or anything else control you. It means that you can live fine without this something/someone.

The truth is…
Sometimes not giving up means you are just a fool. It’s harder to let go than to continue holding on to something/someone or chasing something/someone that was not meant for you to begin with. However, if it was meant to be yours than it/she/he will cross your path again in the future. Understanding this, that does not mean you should be waiting for or looking forward to the day when it/he/she will cross your path again… that would just mean you have not let go or moved on yet.

Before letting go, you have to be able to identify a few things…
You may not be in denial, but the question is are you sure?
You may find yourself constantly trying to justify yourself.
You may find yourself rejecting advice from friends because you feel that the advice given has not weighed in all the variables; therefore, the advice given is biased and invalid.

Well… how can you determine if the advice given is okay to accept? Are they given by a stranger? Or are they given by close friends who have never lied… close friends who have never steered you wrong…  or close friends who have always been there for you? Friends have no reason to lie. It’s up to you to decide on who to trust.

When you have figured out who’s your ally, when you have figured out what you must do, when you have figured out that this is not going to work, when you have figured out that you need to let go and move on, and when you are able to accept the advice that you thought was wrong or even put some serious thought into that advice… then…

then…
this means…
This means you have grown.

Someone who is able to accept criticism and not let it get to them, and someone who is able to clear their biased mind and just think about it… This is what defines one who is strong and open minded.

When your realize…
that you are in denial and…
that you are just holding on to something when you know of the truth…
then you will need to find the courage to become…
Someone is able to let go. Someone who can move on. Someone who is strong…