How two different people…
There are literally billions of people on this planet, and each and every person on this planet is unique. There are no two persons on this planet who are the same, even twins have their differences. Some people are more compatible with some, while they may not be compatible with others. It’s kind of like ketchup, ketchup is good with some food, like eggs, while it is NOT good with other foods, like pancakes (yuck). While there may be friction between two people, there is always a way to work things out. Either one of persons can almost completely accommodate the other, or they both meet each other halfway. Basically, both parties need to participate in order to reach a conclusion; Both parties will have to accommodate each other in order for it to work. If you think about it, everyone in this world accommodates each other. Think about the people around you, even your friends accommodate you. Even if it’s as simple as allowing you to have shotgun, it is still accommodating. But, there are situations where it will not work out between two persons at all. For example, if one were to be completely close minded and not understand the other’s situation, then it would not work out. They may say they understand, but there is a difference between saying it and actually understanding it. So what is there to learn after reading all this? Accommodating people requires you to open your heart to accept the person, not only your mind. Only when you are able to open your heart will you be able to understand each other. That’s my wisdom for how two different people can work things out.
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My best friend have always taught me this: “It takes two to tango.. and one to let go.” In fact, I think there ARE actually people who would like ketchup with pancakes! Sometimes, sacrificing a little wouldn’t hurt; but when it comes one always being the person to sacrifice, one is only sacrificing one’s happiness. But hey! Who would wanna be with someone who can’t even hear their partner’s side of the story right? If one doesn’t want to put in the effort in any way, then it will be hard to work that relationship out. Don’t you think(= Once again, such a great and insightful blog! More more more<333 !!!
Thanks! I loved that line: “It takes two to tango.. and one to let go.”
When you say some people are more compatible, what about the phrase opposites attract? Not sure if people believe that tho. I do have friends that aren’t open minded and have their mindset that can’t change. Sometimes I don’t try to argue with them and I am just whatever. Except if I can prove it then I will argue. Like math. You can’t argue with math.
I wish christians and gays could read this article. they’ll never get along. and i like that quote too! im gonna use it as my facebook status.
Well, it’s not really about what attracts. It’s more about how accommodating works in a relationship of any kind. When you don’t argue with them, that’s basically accommodating your friend, right? However, when you take the time to argue and prove them wrong then they are ultimately understanding you which means they’ve opened not only their mind, but their <3.
Dang… i totally agree with this post… every person IS unique in their own way and people do have to accomodate… from the people that i know back in jersey, reading this post, two people meet half-way… i personally, feel in accomodation, you sacrifice something and BOTH should sacrifice, if it’s just one person actually sacrificing something, if one put’s in their part while the other one doesn’t do the same the relationship be it friendship, love, etc., won’t work out… i happen to know that through experience, but then again, i think a lot of people have experienced that once before. i love readin’ your blogs doug, these posts actually make me stop and think, and that’s always a good thing. To actually understand someone, you have to open yourself up as would the other one in order for anything to work out… some people do open up, while the other doesn’t… and if they don’t the one who opens up gets hurt… trust me, i know… for a relationship of any sort to work out BOTH have to let their walls down and open up otherwise how will anything work out? But also sometimes, it’s difficult to open up due to the fear of gettin’ hurt… but that’s a risk one has to take if a relationship to work out is what a person wants. openin up to a person is a difficult thing to do, but if both open up and both accomodate to each other then a relationship could work out long as they remain open with each other, not one is more open than the other… both have to put in their part.
@Alexis:
Very true. Whether you open up or not, you can ultimately get hurt. If you don’t open up, you risk the chance of your relationship not working, thus getting hurt. If you do open up, you risk the chance of getting hurt as well because of what.. many possible reasons. It’s like a catch 22.
dougy, i know that what you are saying is right, but its hard to accept the fact when it comes to your own situation. i know whats right, i know what im supposed to do, but…its so hard, you know, emotion always gets in the way….
doshiyo, kurushii
@Pika
It’s definitely hard. Sometimes, time is all you need.
very wise and deep. nice.
it’s true that a lot of people say that they understand you and that there is a difference between actually understanding and just saying it, even though they really may not understand you or your words at all. it can seem like a bad thing or habit actually if you see it flat out on the surface only. but saying that they understand you when you ask for advice, it is a way of accommodation because sometimes people vent and explain their complicated, messy thoughts just for the plain act of receiving a response and being able to have someone that will actualy just listen to waht you have to say, regardless if they don’t understand you fully or the way you would want them too. sometimes people just want to say whatever is on their mind, without getting any critical feedback. sometimes people jsut want to talk and have someone listen. so for someone to say they understand you, it is a bland phrase and typical response, but i think it is a way of accommodating your friend if that person is trying to be helpful and “being there” for you. cause who really knows whats going on in someone’s head right? just a thought
here is your comment doug!
Interesting piece of thought there, I liked it. It helped me widen my mind a bit more. Thanks!
“Accommodating people requires you to open your heart to accept the person, not only your mind. Only when you are able to open your heart will you be able to understand each other.” I like this conclusion.Dougy~~
It’s true~
It’s very hard to accommodate and understand if that person doesnt want to open his/her
heart to you,too.
I think both of them need to understand each other~~~
It takes two to make a quarrel~~I guess that’s how you traslate chinese…to English… hahahaha~~~
Yeh!! Dougy~~ I love your Blogggg* It’s very interesting!!!!!!!!
@queebi
Thanks for the nice comment.
@Eri*
It’s very hard to continue a relationship if that person doesn’t open his/her heart to you. The time needed to open their heart is long, and hard, but it will all be beneficial in the end.