Dougy Mak's Blog

There’s a time when you need to let go. There’s a time when you need to move on. There’s a time for everything in life. The question here is, when is it the right time? There is no right answer, but here is my answer: The right time is when you are tired of… When you are so tired of getting angry, or tired of crying, or tired of disappointment, or tired of having to be someone else, or tired of not being realized, or tired of not being appreciated, or tired of the stress, or tired of being hurt, or tired of someone always causing you pain- tired of anything. This is usually a sign for you that you need to move on. The next question would be, how can I move on? I do not think anyone can give you this answer, but I do think listening to people will lead you to your answer. Realize this, time will not wait for you nor anyone else. When you finally get back on your feet, you will be behind everyone else. If you would like to be next to everyone else, you would have to start running. I am sure after going through this once, most will learn to suck it up next time and just continue moving forward. Whether or not you are/were prepared for it, the time is/was right and it happens/happened for a reason. Don’t dwell on it too much, try to learn from it and get back up and move forward again.

Being blind is when you are unable to see. Unable to see what is in front of you, or unable to see what is truely happening. What blinds people from such things? Of the many, love is one of them. Love is such a strong emotion, and it plays such a huge role in everyone’s life. When one is deeply in love, it is easy for them to fall into a dark well, where they cannot see what is truely going on. When one is in that dark well, it’s easy to be manipulated without oneself knowing.

When you’re in a well, it’s no surprise that you want to get out. You will take any help offered in order to get out of that well. Similar to Love, when you’re in love, your only goal is to have your partner love you back. Many people fall into this trap: because you want them to love you back, you would want to be the person that they want you to be and you would do whatever it takes to be that person. You want to be their dream partner, so in order to obtain that goal, you do whatever your partner asks of you. In other words, you are being manipulated. It is very common for this to happen, because you are so caught up with being the person of his/her dreams, you do not realize how you are being manipulated, because the only thing you want is his/her love; You are blinded by your want of his/her love, and you do not realize what is logically going on.

For the people who has been through that situation, you should know the pain that lies ahead in this situation. For the people who are currently going through, one day you will realize how unhappy you are because you are so busy trying to be the partner of his/her dreams and that you do not have time to be yourself. For this reason, you should be nothing else, but yourself.

There are literally billions of people on this planet, and each and every person on this planet is unique. There are no two persons on this planet who are the same, even twins have their differences. Some people are more compatible with some, while they may not be compatible with others. It’s kind of like ketchup, ketchup is good with some food, like eggs, while it is NOT good with other foods, like pancakes (yuck). While there may be friction between two people, there is always a way to work things out. Either one of persons can almost completely accommodate the other, or they both meet each other halfway. Basically, both parties need to participate in order to reach a conclusion; Both parties will have to accommodate each other in order for it to work. If you think about it, everyone in this world accommodates each other. Think about the people around you, even your friends accommodate you. Even if it’s as simple as allowing you to have shotgun, it is still accommodating.  But, there are situations where it will not work out between two persons at all. For example, if one were to be completely close minded and not understand the other’s situation, then it would not work out. They may say they understand, but there is a difference between saying it and actually understanding it. So what is there to learn after reading all this? Accommodating people requires you to open your heart to accept the person, not only your mind. Only when you are able to open your heart will you be able to understand each other. That’s my wisdom for how two different people can work things out.

Like most students, I have class everyday. To commute to school, I have to ride the bus everyday. To use the bus, I have to buy a monthly pass or else… Without a pass, I would have to constantly carry quarters, or I would have to find change by asking people or drop in a corner store and ask the cashier and hope they would not say “You have to buy something first”. I am thankful that I have this pass, its role is simple, but its role makes my life easier. Even if it makes my life just a itsy bitsy teenie weenie little easier, I am glad I have this pass.

Everyone has a routine of some sort, whether it is a daily thing, whether it is a weekly thing, or it can be a something that you do with friends, or it can be somewhere that you go with a friend/lover/whatever- it can be anything. Whatever your routine thing is, sometimes all of us should just stop and think of about these things. Think about who and what is involved, and then appreciate that who or that what. Appreciate that who or that what for how he/she/it has helped your routine or how he/she/it has made your routine easier. Because without that who or that what, your routine might just be another routine that you might not enjoy as much or your routine might just be another pain in the butt. Try to think about these things, and appreciate it. If you have a hard time appreciating it, then try to imagine how life would be like without this who or this what, and then you should be able to see through everything and see the difference between what you have now and what you might not have without this who or what. Think to yourself… just think about it… then my question to you is…

Can you see the difference?

edit: I would appreciate it if everyone can share their opinons and thoughts by posting in comments. Like my bus pass, I would love to read about what all of you applied this to.

Throughout life, you meet many different kinds of people. They may be friends, lovers, family, or much more. Regardless of who it is, there’s always a person or a handful of persons that are engraved in your heart and mind forever. Even when you are not on good terms with he/she or when he/she is not around in your life anymore, that mark that they left in your heart and mind will still be there. They won’t be forgotten, and their marks will always be with you.